Heading Back Into Routine With Gentle Parenting in Mind
Heading back into routine after the holidays can feel surprisingly hard. Sleep schedules shift, mornings feel rushed again, and expectations return all at once. Many parents notice more emotional outbursts, resistance, or power struggles during this time and start to wonder if they are doing something wrong.
From a gentle and steady parenting perspective, especially inspired by Dr. Becky Kennedy’s work in Good Inside, these challenges make a lot of sense. Children are not giving us a hard time. They are having a hard time.
One of the core ideas in Good Inside is that children are good inside, even when their behavior feels overwhelming or confusing. After time away from routine, children often struggle with transitions and limits. Their nervous systems are adjusting, and big feelings show up before words or skills can catch up.
Gentle parenting does not mean removing boundaries or letting everything slide. It means holding boundaries with empathy. Steady parenting asks us to stay grounded and present when our child cannot. When we can say, “I know this is hard, and I am here,” while still holding the limit, we offer both emotional safety and leadership.
Routine itself is not about control. It is about predictability and security. Children feel safer when they know what to expect, especially after a period of change. As families return to daily rhythms, it can help to slow things down, offer extra connection during transitions, and expect some pushback. Cooperation often comes after regulation, not before.
It is also important to name that this transition can be hard for parents too. Many adults feel pressure to get everything back on track quickly. In Good Inside, Dr. Becky reminds parents that our own regulation matters. When we notice our triggers, soften our expectations, and take care of ourselves, we are better able to show up as steady, calm leaders for our children.
If youve ever wondered “am I doing this right?” you are not alone and we are here to help. Parenting through transitions like returning to routine can bring up old patterns, self doubt, and exhaustion. Support can make a real difference. Parenting is not meant to be done perfectly or alone.
Returning to routine is not a test of your parenting. It is a gradual process of reconnection and adjustment. With patience, empathy, and clear boundaries, children can settle back into rhythm in their own time. Your child is good inside, and so are you.
By Hannah Lockrem, AMFT
Disclaimer
This content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. Reading this page does not establish a therapeutic relationship.
The ideas shared are inspired by Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and parenting expert. These concepts are referenced for educational purposes.
Every family is different. If you are feeling overwhelmed or concerned about your child or your own wellbeing, support from a licensed mental health professional may be helpful.
